The Pressure to Be ‘Cool’ Online vs. Just Being Yourself

 


Let’s be honest—how many times have you taken a picture, looked at it, and thought, “Will this look good on my feed?” instead of “Do I even like this?”

Welcome to the internet, where posting for validation is a sport and looking effortlessly cool is the ultimate goal. But here’s the real question—are we really posting for ourselves, or are we just curating a version of us that fits the ‘cool’ aesthetic?

Social media has turned into a giant competition where people post what looks good, not necessarily what feels good. We see the perfectly posed candids, the ‘casual’ mirror selfies (that probably took 50 attempts), and the captions that scream “I’m effortlessly cool and mysterious”—when in reality, it’s just another attempt to keep up with the online version of ourselves.

And let’s not even get started on trends. One day, you’re wearing something because you like it, and the next, you’re questioning your whole wardrobe because it’s not giving "Pinterest aesthetic."

The worst part? We all know it’s fake. Yet, we still get caught up in it.

But here’s a thought—what if we just stopped caring? What if we posted pictures we actually liked, wore things that made us feel good, and stopped forcing ourselves to fit into an online personality that isn’t even real? Imagine how freeing that would be.

At the end of the day, trying to be ‘cool’ online is exhausting, and let’s be real—people barely even notice. So, instead of posting for ‘them,’ how about just being you?

Comments

  1. EthicalreverbsMarch 16, 2025 at 12:01 PM

    The blog was just a wholesome. If i talk about that people these days don't stop themselves and realise how the online pressure is silently killing them, they are just busy in their own flexing lives. The blog definitely needs a raise!

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    1. amolii~March 16, 2025 at 12:14 PM

      It’s wild how deep we are in this cycle of flexing. But awareness is the first step, right? Appreciate your perspective!

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  2. AnonymousMarch 16, 2025 at 4:03 PM

    It’s surreal

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  3. AnonymousMarch 16, 2025 at 10:19 PM

    Would love to read more of your blogs cause they’re a reality check which people just choose not to look closely at.

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    1. amolii~March 16, 2025 at 11:39 PM

      Thank you! I’m glad you find them helpful. I’ll keep sharing more insights!

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  4. AnonymousMay 22, 2025 at 5:32 PM

    It was high time someone said it

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    1. amolii~May 23, 2025 at 9:49 AM

      Couldn’t agree more. Being genuine online shouldn’t feel like a bold move, but it often does.

      Delete

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